If you've ever watched Oprah or heard someone speak about her show - then you've probably heard of Dr. Phil McGraw. For awhile on Oprah, every Tuesday, Dr. Phil was conducting, along with 42 volunteers, The Get Real Challenge. It was interesting to watch - when I could - the volunteers challenge everything in their life. The goal was to wake people up and have them start looking at their lives through a different lens. They were asked to be honest and specific while dealing with their INTERNAL feelings, or internal clutter as I refer to it.
In one of the many exercises, Dr. Phil talks about the "tapes" playing in our heads: " Think of a big tape player in your head playing a continuous loop. The message that is repeated over and over becomes so well learned that it becomes an automatic belief. It's time to go into slow motion for a few minutes and get in touch with what you've been telling yourself. It's time to talk about your tapes."
Dr. Phil then asks, "What are your tapes playing?"
So I want to ask you:
…You grew up during The Great Depression Era where a piece of twine was as valuable as a piece of fresh fruit.
…You were told to never throw anything away that still had "life" in it, "just in case," or "it's still good for something".
... You were told to hold onto every utility bill stud, paycheck stub, cancelled checks and other papers that you might not really need to hold on to anymore.
…You feel you're not good enough for anybody or anything and your paper piles temporarily fill your emptiness.
…You always have good intentions of reading it "someday".
…You are buried in pain and sadness from the past.
…You feel shame, failure, or embarrassment from all your paper clutter and hoarding.
…You feel unimportant or undesired.
OR MAYBE you were told you would NEVER have anything!
Then you're A VICTIM!
Dr. Phil goes on to say that we need to name our pain, reveal the pain so we can move forward. We have all been a victim of something. Some wrong doing to our bodies. Some wrong talk of our being. Some injustice to our way of thinking or dealing with stuff.
Discovering who or what victimized you can be a powerful release for you, but how do you find it?
Try answering the questions below honestly and to the best of your ability. Write your answers out. Let the pain and sadness pour out on the paper. Cry, scream, let it out, and let it go!
To gain control of your life, your stuff, and the tapes running through your head you MUST STOP playing the victim! You will have to get emotionally closer to your sadness and pain before it can be released or dealt with. You must give your sadness and pain a voice. One day you must make a turn in your life and deal with it. Why not today?
Don't let your tapes eat away at you silently - deal with it today and stop hiding behind your paper clutter and stuff. Allow yourself to go forward with your life and become clutter free.
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